Friday, December 31, 2010

Adoption Update... Meet Our Son!!!

We are thrilled to announce the adoption of our son, Tyce David Michnovicz! He was born on December 10, 2010 and adopted by us on December 30, 2010. Long story short… He was born prematurely at 27 weeks and is currently 2 lbs 5 oz, about 14 inches long, and is doing very well! However, because of his prematurity, he will have to stay in the NICU in Ohio until March, at which point we will be able to bring our little man home!

For those of you who have asked how you can help us during this busy time, thank you!! Here are some ways you can help:
1)      Please pray for him and us. We will have to be away from him the majority of the time while he’s in the NICU, and we probably won’t be able to bring him home until March. We’re praying that his little body will continue to develop correctly, that he will know that he has a family that loves him, and that God will bind our hearts together fully and quickly.
2)      Pray that God will provide the means and the funds for us and our family to travel up here to be with him as much as possible until he comes home. Since this adoption is different from most domestic adoptions in that he must stay in Ohio until he’s discharged from the NICU, we will need to fly out there to visit him a couple more times, and travel expenses have the potential of getting pretty high.
3)      Any financial help would be appreciated as well. If you're interested, we are still “selling” puzzle pieces (“donate” button at the top right of page). We’ve sold almost half of the puzzle pieces so far, and we’ll post a picture of the puzzle’s progress soon. If you’ve already donated, THANK YOU SO MUCH! God has used you as an answer to prayer. You have been a part of making this adoption possible!

Now, for those of you who have been patiently waiting to hear the story of this adoption or are just curious and are willing to read a few pages, here’s the unabridged version of the story. J
So.... where to begin? I guess I'll start by saying that we've been praying for a baby ever since we started this adoption process, and lately, we've been praying that it would happen soon. We had tried to work with an agency in Alabama but God closed the door there, which was pretty disappointing at first. However, we had recently found a Christian agency in Florida that we started to work with – we had all our paperwork and profile turned in and were just waiting on final approval. We were excited to work with this agency and were hopeful, but apparently God had other plans. So here it goes….
On December 17th, our church had its Women’s' Christmas Dinner, where we all heard a great message about Christmas and then were supposed to go to three different prayer stations to pray for different things. At each station, there was a slip of paper with a list of things to pray for and a verse. I picked up the first piece of paper and tried to start praying for the things on the paper... but couldn't. Instead, I felt this overwhelming burden to pray for our kid. Didn't know why, or where, or when, or how. Just KNEW I needed to pray. So I did. I prayed and prayed and prayed. Then, I moved on to the next station and thought, “Okay, now I can pray for what I'm supposed to pray for...” But as I began to read the slip, I could hardly concentrate or read the words. Something was prompting me to pray for my baby. So, again, I prayed. I thought, “God, I don't know if this baby is in the womb still, or being born right now, or maybe he or she has already been born and is struggling... I don't know, but I'll pray.” When I got home from the party, I told Jotham about my experience, and we both just kind of wondered what it meant...
Skip ahead to Wednesday night, December 22nd. We were braving the craziness of the River of Lights parking, and I just started thinking about how much I love Gabi and began to pray that God would give us another child soon. And as soon as I said the word “soon,” I heard a voice say, “Soon? Really? Because I'll answer your prayers.” I was immediately taken aback and thought, “What was THAT?” I actually started to get a little nervous, because I started thinking, “Okay, maybe I'm not ready quite yet... Maybe I need more time!!...” But in my heart, I knew it was too late. God had heard me and was in the process of answering my prayer. Fast forward 2 hours. We are waiting in line for the bathrooms at the River of Lights, and I see that I have a message from Heather (our social worker) on my phone. I nervously dial my voice mail and hear Heather say, “Kara, it's Heather. I think I might have a possible baby for you.... Give me a call as soon as you can...” I told Jotham about the message and then about my prayer a couple hours earlier. We both were just speechless. In total shock. Could this really be happening? After getting back to our car, I called Heather, and she explained to me that there was a little baby boy born prematurely at 27 weeks in Ohio, and he needed a family. She didn't know many details at that point, but briefly explained the situation and said that she would call back the next day with more details. So, Jotham and I talked, prayed, and thought through what had just happened. Initially, we were totally open to the fact that this might be our baby, but it was just hard for us to know anything before we knew more details. We talked and prayed as much as we could and anxiously awaited more info the next day. As I waited though, I just kept thinking that this probably wasn't a black baby, and we had felt SO strongly that we were called to adopt a black baby. I kept asking God, “God, if this is our baby, please let him be black.” I probably said that same prayer 10 times that night and the next morning, but I couldn't help thinking that this little boy probably wasn't black. I thought, “So if he's not black, should we wait for another baby? Or should we set aside our desires for this baby?” Sounds weird, but despite the prematurity, my biggest concern was his ethnicity.
So, the next day, Heather called me around noon and said that she had more information... She started off by saying that the adoption agency wanted this baby to have a home and a family so bad that they sat down the night before and got rid of every possible fee they could, so that they wouldn't make any money off of the adoption. She told me that they basically cut the fees to about half of their original quote! Next, she said, “So this little boy is full African-American.... He's the race you wanted!!!” I said, “Heather, you have no idea how happy you just made me!” God had answered my prayer! She began to give me some more details about the birth mom and the situation surrounding this baby, including the birth mom's drug usage and the circumstances surrounding his premature birth. She also told me that the doctors and nurses had deemed this little baby “the miracle baby” because he was doing so well in the NICU so far. He only had to be on a vent for 4 days, was tolerating feedings well, peeing and pooping, and his intestines seemed to be functioning normally. The only complications this baby had were a couple of mild brain bleeds (which are not uncommon in preemies). The first brain bleed was a grade I, which is the least severe, and the second brain bleed was a grade II. They are graded I-IV, from mildest to most severe. Heather said that these brain bleeds hadn't seemed to cause any secondary problems thus far, which was good news. After getting some more details from Heather, I got off the phone and shared the story with Jotham. We both felt like this still might be our baby but just weren't completely sure. We needed more confirmation from God. Ever since I’d heard about this baby, I had been praying, “God, if this is our baby, please let me find something significant that happened on the 17th as I look through his medical records.” (Reminder: December 17th was the day of the Christmas party when I felt so compelled to pray for our child.) So, I continued to pray that prayer. That evening, the baby's medical records were sent to me, and I reviewed them quickly and was pleasantly surprised to see how well he seemed to be doing. Later that night, I was looking at them in more detail, and I came to this entry: 12/17/10: Grade II IVH (IVH stands for inter-ventricular hemorrhage, aka brain bleed). This meant that the most concerning medical issue this baby had experienced to date happened on the 17th!! This is why I needed to pray that night! Seeing God’s obvious hand in this immediately brought me to tears, and I just knew that this was our child! Praise God for his faithfulness in answering my VERY specific prayer!
But…. believe it or not, over the next few days, both Jotham and I started to experience doubts and have concerns (which I now know is NOT uncommon for people to experience when they’re about to adopt a baby). J I thought I was so strange for having doubts after God had showed me so clearly that this was our baby. So I asked Him for even MORE confirmation and assurance. And, as always, God is a loving Father who gives us good gifts, and He provided more confirmation. My main fear was that I wouldn’t be equipped or strong enough to handle a preemie baby or the problems he might face later in life. I was also just worried about the fragility of this baby. I kept hoping that God would show me a verse in the Bible that would comfort me when I was feeling scared or having doubts. One day, I was praying for this, and the verse that popped into my head was this, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor. 12:9). Here I was - feeling like I might not be sufficient for the needs of this child, but God's grace IS sufficient. And, God's power is made perfect in WEAKNESS (the fragility of a newborn baby). Thank you, Lord, for constant reminders of your grace!
Now, it was time to tell our families. I had been a bit anxious about telling them, and I wasn’t really sure why… I think I was nervous because this all happened so unexpectedly, and I was also afraid to tell them about the birth mom’s drug usage. However, we told Jotham’s parents, and they were immediately supportive and encouraging. The next day, we told my family, and they had the same response. My mom immediately started bawling… tears of joy! When I told them that we were going to have to leave the baby in Ohio until he was discharged from the NICU in March, my mom said, “Oh Kara, I’ll go stay with him!” Hearing her say this was just so reassuring! Jotham and I had thought that if anyone was going to try to dissuade us from adopting this baby, it would be our parents, because they love us and want to protect us from potential hardship, pain, or sadness. So, when both of our families were immediately supportive (and excited!) about us adopting this baby, we felt like this was another way that God was reassuring us that we should move forward with this adoption. J
As if we hadn’t had enough confirmation already, God continued to show us signs of His favor throughout the next few days. We continually (I mean, like once an hour) got phone calls or texts or emails  from friends or family telling us that they were praying or even that they felt like God was showing them that this baby was ours. My sister called one night to tell us that she felt like God was prompting her to share with us that sometimes obeying God is really scary… BUT, the thought of not obeying God (when He has clearly showed you His will for you) is even scarier. Both Jotham and I had been apprehensive about adopting this baby, but we had been feeling even more apprehensive about not following where God seemed to be leading us. My sister encouraged us to take this step of faith and trust God. Then, Jotham’s mom called to encourage us with Psalm 11. We had been feeling like Satan wanted this baby, and that God wanted to use us to save this baby. Psalm 11 says, “…the wicked bend the bow… to shoot in the dark at the upright in heart.” But later in the chapter it says, “… the Lord is righteous; he loves righteous deeds; the upright shall behold his face.” God continued to use our friends and family to encourage us – Jotham was able to talk to his dad a few times, who always gave him Godly advice and shared his wisdom. Jotham was also able to be encouraged by a few friends who’ve recently adopted. And, as if we still weren’t receiving enough confirmation from the Lord, we went to our Christmas Eve service on Friday night, and the service was all about ADOPTION. When we finally felt like we were ready to move forward with this adoption and make this baby a part of our family, I called Heather to let her know our decision. When I told her how God had made it so clear to us what we should do, she told me, “Kara, I’m so glad to hear you say all this because, when I heard about this baby, God was pretty clear about who I should call.” Yet more confirmation!!!
So, we booked our flights to Ohio and showed up in Columbus on Wednesday, the 29th. During the flight, I was reading through the Psalms and found these verses, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but you, oh Lord, are the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” (Psalm 73:26). The other verse was, “Show me a sign of your favor so that those who hate me may see and be put to shame because you, Lord, have helped me and comforted me.” (Psalm 86:17).I quickly memorized both verses, shared them with Jotham, and just kept repeating them in my head like a broken record. When we finally arrived in Columbus, let me tell you, we were a ball of nerves, to say the least. I think Satan was trying to keep this good thing from happening as he planted doubts and worries in our minds. Honestly, that first night, we were ready to quit. Give up and go home. We prayed and prayed and prayed that God would close a huge, obvious door if this wasn’t His will for us. We called people hoping they’d tell us they didn’t think this was a good idea. But God did not close any door, and everyone we called told us to step out in faith and trust in our Father. We kept thinking, “Okay. [deep breath] Okay, Lord. You’re moving this forward whether we like it or not, so we’re just going to follow along until you close a door or give us a son.” We prayed and prayed and prayed…again… for God to close a door or speak to us clearly and give us more confirmation that this was His will.
The next morning, we drove over to the agency, signed papers to become the parents of this little boy we hadn’t ever seen or met, and all the while, we were thinking, “We are absolutely crazy. What are we doing?” But still, no closed door. In fact, everything was going as smoothly as it possibly could. After signing the papers, we went over to the hospital to wait for the social worker, who was going to take us to “our baby. “ After waiting about an hour, she took us up to the nursery and we laid eyes on this cute, tiny, precious baby boy. We have a SON. Seeing him was our final confirmation from God.

Our first morning here, the doctor came in to give us an overview on his health and answer any questions we might have. Though there are some possible developmental problems (ranging from mild to severe) that could potentially result from his intrauterine drug exposure and pre-term birth, the doctor told us that he has been doing as well as any other preemie of his age. So far there aren’t any negative signs, and his progress has been very encouraging. The doctor also confirmed our feelings that the “good news and bad news is that he’s a preemie.” The fact that he was born before the last trimester means that he wasn’t exposed to harmful drugs during the most critical phase of brain development. God knows what he’s doing and is at work every step of the way!
 And as I sit here writing this with my son sleeping ever so peacefully on my chest, I can’t help but think, “THIS is why God never closed a door. THIS is why he brought us here. THIS is why He spoke to us so clearly. God knew all along that THIS boy was our son.” All glory to God!!!!!!!!


  1. Wow! What an amazing story! God is so good and faithful! Thank you so much for sharing this story and the encouragement of HOW GTEAT OUR GOD IS! I will continue to pray for Tyce and you all! Can't wait to meet him! Love you guys!

  2. Amazing story and so well written! Thank you for sharing. May God bless and His face shine upon you and your new son! We will pray for quick development so you can bring him home!!!

  3. Kara, thank you for sharing God's story in your life. What a blessing, I rejoice with you. God's hand is merciful and good.

  4. God is so good! This is so exciting to hear how God has moved! We'll keep you all in prayer, especially little Tyce! What wonderful news with which to end one year and begin a new one!

  5. Crying tears of joy for you, my friends. Tyce is so perfectly precious. Micah agrees that Tyce is very cute. Will continue in prayer for you and for Tyce's little body as you all transition into a family of four.

  6. We are praying for you guys and baby Tyce. God is truly amazing and gracious. Can't wait to meet your little guy! So cute and tiny!

  7. UGh!!! Tissues please!

    Yaaaay God, You always keep your promises!!!

    Will pray for baby Tyce (LOVE the name BTW).... were we right about this miracle?

    My heart is sooo happy for you!

  8. oh MAN i wasn't planning on crying tonight! this is AMAZING news, and i was JUST thinking a couple weeks ago about ya'll, and thinking, you know, it seems like it's time they had another kiddo.. i'm not kidding. so weird. and you DO have another kiddo! YAY!! so excited. love ya'll,
    the grebes

  9. To God be the glory in all and that is certainly what you are doing as you have prayed, waited patiently and now move forward in faith! What a precious gift from God and what godly parents you are. blessings and love, The Seaveys

  10. CONGRATULATIONS Jotham and Kara! I needed a good cry on New Year's Eve :) I LOVE baby Tyce and I can't wait until he gets to come home with his mamma and daddy AND meet his proud big sister! The Lord is so good and faithful. I will be praying for you guys as you have to say a temporary goodbye to your lil' man. I can't imagine how hard that is. But was a sweet sweet reunion when he sees his parents again and most importantly comes home to his family. Thanks for sharing all the details of your story! love, carrie

  11. Wow! What an amazing story. We are praising God with you for bringing Tyce into your family! We will be praying for you!

  12. I'm crying...tears of joy & thanksgiving! What a blessing to see the Lord's hand so faithfully guiding and tending to each step. We love this little baby right along with you and rejoice in God bringing him to your family.

    "He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young." ~Isaiah 40:11

    love the update and we will pray, pray, pray! :)

  13. Congratulations Kara & Jotham!! We will be praying for you and Tyce. Blessings!

    Sarah and Will

  14. What a truly amazing story! How great is our God, and faithful to answer our prayers! We will be praying for your family that you will all be united soon.